It came as a surprise to fans when Kristin Cavallari and Jay Cutler announced their split on April 26, 2020, after seven years of marriage.
“With great sadness, after 10 years together we have come to a loving conclusion to get a divorce,” the Very Cavallari star captioned a photo of the pair on Instagram. “We have nothing but love and respect for one another and are deeply grateful for the years shared, memories made, and the children we are so proud of. This is just the situation of two people growing apart. We ask everyone to respect our privacy as we navigate this difficult time within our family.”
The couple, who had been open about the ups and downs in their relationship, were dedicated to working on their marriage before their breakup, even seeking couples therapy.
“There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship,” the former Laguna Beach star admitted on her reality show in April 2019. “Jay and I have problems — I’ve always been very vocal about that. We have to work at our relationship. … We definitely have issues.”
The former Chicago Bears quarterback and Cavallari, who were set up by mutual pal Giuliana Rancic in 2010, tied the knot in June 2013 and share two sons — Camden and Jaxon — and a daughter, Saylor.
The Uncommon James founder admitted that their marriage was tested after Cutler left the NFL following the 2017 season.
“We went from it being about Jay’s career and his schedule and everything, to now, Uncommon James has been really taking off and the show and everything, and he’s at home,” she said in January 2019. “So, it’s just been trying to navigate this new normal. But I mean, things are fine. It’s all good!”
But shortly before their split, she admitted that their relationship was at “a low.”
While they have gone their separate ways, a source told Us Weekly exclusively that “there’s nothing scandalous or suspect about their split. Honestly, they just fell out of love and grew apart.”
Scroll down to look back at everything the pair has said about their relationship.
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The couple got engaged in April 2011 and shortly before the football star got down on one knee and popped the question, Cavallari told Us why she was so smitten. "Jay is a good Midwestern boy; he's a gentleman," she told Us. "He opens up car doors and he did the laundry today, which I thought is pretty cool, so he's a good boy. We're in love!"
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The pair split three months after getting engaged, only to reunite in November 2011. The reality TV star explained in her 2016 book, Balancing in Heels, why she was the one to break things off. "At that moment, something wasn't right," she wrote. "A few things needed to change, and I knew the only way Jay would see how serious I was, was if I ended the relationship." One of the issues was that Cavallari didn't want to give up her career after they wed. "If I stayed at home, I wouldn't be happy," the shoe designer wrote. "And would probably end up resenting Jay for it."
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While pregnant with the couple's third child, Cavallari opened up about juggling motherhood and marriage. "It's so important to make time for each other, even if it's just waiting to eat dinner after the kids go to bed," she wrote in a blog post for Cricket's Circle. "And even if it's takeout, light a candle and make an effort to connect. Also, you gotta have sex — men need it, and it's important for the relationship. It doesn't have to be all the time, but you have to get it in there sometimes!"
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The football star opened up about how his outlook on life has changed after he settled down with his wife and became a dad of three. "As you get older and having Kristin and the boys and now a daughter there's a lot more to think about. It's not just you," he told the Chicago Tribune in January 2016. "Having kids helps you realize how selfish you can be as a person, rather quickly. These have all been things I haven't mastered, but I'm definitely more aware of."
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Cutler also told the Chicago Tribune that he wasn't the same guy who joined the Bears in 2009. "You look at your 2006 self when [I] came into the league and it's a drastic change. But if you're not trying to get better in certain aspects of your life, you're just going to stay the same," he said. "I think we can all improve. Things at home, things in your life away from work, if they're not in order, it's definitely going to affect your professional business."
He also talked about how he supported his wife when her brother, Michael Cavallari, went missing and was later found dead in December 2015. "It's always tough and it's still hard for Kristin and she's extremely mentally tough and strong as a person. I was more in a role of comforting and trying to help her through it. It wasn't easy. There were a couple of weeks when it was really rocky and we didn't know what was happening. I think everyone expected the worst and prepared for it. But whenever you finally get that news, you're really never ready for it. It's still something that we're working through, but it will get better."
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Cavallari admitted in her 2016 book, Balancing in Heels, that they sought professional help. "I credit [our therapist] for saving our relationship," she wrote. "She opened up our eyes to the other person's perspective and gave us great tools for communication. … We still periodically see her to this day." Cutler admitted to the Chicago Tribune that their therapist and the Bears' in-house sports psychologist helped him to get "insight on some things." "You start seeing things differently," he said. "That definitely has helped me deal with stuff."
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The Hills alum told Us exclusively in June 2017 that they were working on their relationship. "Honestly, I think communication and it's so much easier said than done. I know that Jay and I have to make a conscious effort. You have to put in work for a relationship," she told Us. "You can't just get complacent and lazy. You have to still value and appreciate the other person. I think that when you don't that's probably when you start to get in trouble. And, I mean, we have our issues. Our relationship isn't perfect. But we love each other and we work on it and we make a conscious choice to work on the relationship and I think that that's what you just have to do."
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Cavallari told Us in 2017 that they were "completely done" having kids, saying that her two boys and daughter made for "a complete family." She also praised her husband as "the most hands-on dad on the planet." "I mean, he really is great," she told Us. "He's on the floor playing with the kids. He's alone with the kids right now while I'm here in Utah. He's changing diapers, he's getting them dressed, he's even doing Saylor's hair … I honestly couldn't ask for a better husband and better dad."
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As she got busier with her lifestyle brand, Uncommon James, the entrepreneur admitted in 2018 that she was finding it "hard to balance it all," and conceded that "I could probably put a little more attention on Jay and probably myself as well."
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Cavallari said on her E! show in February 2019 that their marriage was "in a serious funk." "When you were playing football, I had to give up my whole life," she told Cutler. "I don't feel that from you." She admitted that they had "switched roles," with her career gaining momentum after he retired from the NFL following the 2017 season. "My career has really picked up, so it's been great 'cause I couldn't do it without him," she added.
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The pair got candid about their marital problems on an April 2019 episode of Very Cavallari. "There's no such thing as a perfect relationship. Jay and I have problems — I've always been very vocal about that," she said. "We have to work at our relationship. … We definitely have issues."
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She noted in a March 2020 episode of her reality show that the athlete was her support system during her feud with her ex-best friend Kelly Henderson. "It's been a bit of a rocky year. I feel like the older you get, the more you realize who is supposed to be in your life," Cavallari told her husband. "You figure out who your real friends are — friends come and go. It's nice that I have you as my constant. You're my common denominator."
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"From the outside, like, things are so perfect and things are so great," Cavallari said on the April 7, 2020, episode. "But actually, like, they're not. And that sucks. It sucks. That's the thing, though, with marriage — it's ups and downs. Right now we're in a low, but in two months we could be up here again. And that's how we've always been, our whole relationship. It is what it is."
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"With great sadness, after 10 years together we have come to a loving conclusion to get a divorce," Cavallari and Cutler announced on Instagram on April 26, 2020. "We have nothing but love and respect for one another and are deeply grateful for the years shared, memories made, and the children we are so proud of. This is just the situation of two people growing apart. We ask everyone to respect our privacy as we navigate this difficult time within our family."
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