A rocky road. Busy Philipps has always been unflinchingly honest about her marriage to Marc Silverstein — especially when she revealed that they separated after nearly 15 years of marriage.
“It’s been a really long time that Marc and I have been separated, and our kids know, our families know, our friends know,” the Girls5Eva star confirmed on her podcast, “Busy Philipps Is Doing Her Best,” in May 2022. “And we really discussed, like, how do I handle it sort of publicly. Because when we first separated, it was, like, February of last year.”
She continued: “But the truth is … there’s, like, a conventional idea of what a person in the public eye is supposed to do when their relationship ends, and it’s been very well established, right? … You make a statement, you’re committed to remaining friends, ‘please respect our privacy and our family’s privacy in this time,’ right? But the truth is, ‘Who made that rule up, that that’s how you do it?’ I’m serious.”
Explaining that she and the screenwriter needed to do what was best for them and their family, Philipps decided to wait and “figure out” their feelings on the situation before saying anything. “It’s been a journey. … The surest way that Marc and I have been able to ensure the privacy of our kids that we love so f–king much was by not involving the public.”
The Freaks and Geeks alum tied the knot with Silverstein in a surprise ceremony in June 2007 in Mexico. They welcomed their first child, Birdie Leigh, one year later and Philipps gave birth to daughter Cricket Pearl in July 2013.
“He was not understanding how to be a dad and, in fact, didn’t try,” Philipps said of the Vow screenwriter in a November 2018 interview with Parents, revealing that taking on parenting responsibilities by herself took a toll on their marriage. “When I told him I wanted to have a second child, he said, ‘Fine, but it’s all on you.’ That was so heartbreaking. [I] went to Marc several times and said, ‘I cannot do this anymore. Something has to change, and it’s you.’”
The Cougar Town alum continued: “We’ve had a lot of serious discussions and counseling, and he’s incredibly participatory now in a way I don’t think he could’ve imagined before. We’re a work in progress but trying our best, and that’s the most you can do.”
In her 2018 memoir, This Will Only Hurt a Little, Philipps confessed that she and Silverstein had almost called it quits three years after Cricket’s birth. “There was a disconnect [between us],” she wrote in the book. “He didn’t let me talk when we were out with friends. Or worse, when it was just us, he didn’t speak to me at all. I’d started to do a test when we were alone in the car together, where I wouldn’t say anything until he did, just to see how long it would take him to talk to me.”
“Some days we rode the whole way in silence,” she added. “All those years of feeling so alone had started to add up. I’d just assumed that was what marriage was: two people being mildly miserable next to one another.”
Keep scrolling to relive Philipps and Silverstein’s relationship timeline:
Just over one year after their wedding, Philipps and Silverstein welcomed their first child, Birdie. In December 2020, the former Busy Tonight host revealed that her eldest is gay and uses they/them pronouns. “For those of you who are my friends listening at home, this is the first you’re hearing that Birdie is gay and out,” she explained on her podcast at the time. “Birdie told us at 10 years old and we immediately … I mean, obviously, I knew that Birdie knew.” Six months later, she revealed in an interview with Health that Birdie identifies as "femme-presenting non-binary.” Courtesy of Busy Philipps/Instagram
The former couple welcomed daughter Cricket in July 2013. “My little one is not used to me working this much,” Philipps told Us Weekly in August 2018. “She’s used to having me all the time. ... It’s been little bit of a transition, me going to work every single day. She doesn’t understand. [She is like] ‘Why do you have to work all time?’” Courtesy of Busy Philipps/Instagram
After noticing that “things hadn’t been great" between her and Silverstein "for a while," the Dawson's Creek alum asked him for a divorce in December 2016. “A month [after the 2016 presidential election], I told Marc I wanted a divorce. I was done. I couldn’t do it anymore,” she wrote in her memoir, adding that she was seeking out emotional support from another man. “There was a man I was friends with, another dad. We’d been having lunch and stuff. Texting. Talking on the phone a lot. Honestly, I had a crush on him. I like him. Maybe I even loved him? He clearly liked me too." However, when she told the producer that she wasn't happy, he asked for another chance. "He said I owed our family that. ... This time, Marc got his own therapist. And we started to work through it." Courtesy of Busy Philipps/Instagram
The Arizona native released her debut memoir, This Will Only Hurt a Little, in October 2018. In the book, she shares several candid stories about her marriage to Silverstein and their almost-split. Earl Gibson III/Shutterstock
Philipps revealed in a November 2018 interview with Parents that Silverstein's lack of involvement in parenting their children played a major role in her desire to call it quits. "Marriage is always hard, but especially when you have kids ... You're going to go through periods when you're not into it, but there always has to be one person willing to fight. I went to Marc several times and said, 'I cannot do this anymore. Something has to change, and it's you,'" she recalled. "We've had a lot of serious discussions and counseling, and he's incredibly participatory now in a way I don't think he could've imagined before. We're a work in progress but trying our best, and that's the most you can do." Dan Steinberg/Shutterstock
"My thinking was that if I leave, at least then maybe I’d get two days off a week [from parenting]," Philipps revealed in an October 2019 interview with Harper's Bazaar about her marital struggles. "I understand that I’m in a place of privilege, and even if I left Marc and I’d been super down on my luck, there was a version of life that I could have made work for me and my [children]." In the same interview, Silverstein shared his side publicly for the first time. “I like being good at stuff. And I didn’t feel like I was good [in the home], so I stayed away," he said, adding that after Philipps confronted him, "I realized that deep happiness comes from my family and once I figured out what I could bring to the table, things changed. I wanted to do more." Eric Charbonneau/Shutterstock
Philipps credited going back to work with helping her marriage withstand the stresses of quarantine amid the COVID-19 pandemic. “It’s hard for everybody in all ways. It’s hard for my friends who are living with roommates who they loved previously, but you’re spending 24 hours a day, seven days a week with them," she told Us exclusively in May 2020. “I’ve been lucky enough recently to go back to work. ... Having that time out of the house and being out, doing the thing that I really like to do, has been important for me." Eric Charbonneau/Shutterstock
The couple decided to separate in February 2021, although Philipps waited over a year to share the news with the world in order to protect their family. "Marc and I talked about it, and when we first separated, we couldn't even think about putting one of those statements out — it made us sick, both of us, truly ill," she said on a May 2022 episode of her podcast. Dan Steinberg/Shutterstock
Despite calling it quits, the Vice Principals alum explained in May 2022 that she and Silverstein still remain close. "We love each other — very much! And we have these beautiful kids together. And there are a lot of things that really work about our relationship," she explained. Eric Charbonneau/Shutterstock
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